And I hope you enjoy, because my grandmothers have access to this site and that’s kinda scary considering the questions. But, guess what? I didn’t give you guys an outline of what was OK to ask and now I have to answer. (Well, I don’t have to- but I will!) So here goes kids! More than you ever cared to know about me: (GRANDMA! YOU DON’T WANT TO KNOW!)

This one is from Ashley: Hmm my question is.. And this is totally a weird question but you said over at Lindsey Ivory you and your hubs have sex like all the time and everyday. Do you not get sore? We tried to do everyday for thirty days but I get sore. Totally sorry if my question is tmi.

Hey Ashley! First- NO ONE has sex everyday. If they do they are a better person then I, or they might do it for a living. On the questionnaire I did for Lindsey Ivory, I was talking about a few different things. I didn’t mean to give the illusion that WOAH! I’m doing it 100% of the time. Before I was pregnant, I would always hear that a women’s sex drives got lower and that many men were left sad & alone while their wives cooked up a baby. My first pregnancy had the exact OPPOSITE effect on me. We always had a very healthy relationship but once I was pregnant-not only was I more into it, but the fact that my husband finds pregnancy so attractive-it definitely got things going! Within a few days of having Hudson, I felt better and I missed the connection that I had grown to really appreciate during my pregnancy. Then, when I was pregnant again it was the same except it became actually not possible for me as I grew to be the size of a small house. So, by the time I had the twins a few weeks ago, I was REALLY missing my husband.  Celebrating your love is a wonderful thing. Just use birth control. Or you get twins! Advice for getting close more often: Don’t be hung up on your appearance. Too many women are and I really think it screws with your sex life. You guy is there because he wants to be and finds every bit of you attractive! I’ll skip the logistics of sex itself, because, clearly we all know how it goes- and like I said- HIII GRANDMA!

Kristi asked: Do you feel the same way about the twins as you do for Hudson?

Well, mama. I’ll be honest in saying No, I don’t. When I had Hudson it was him & I all the time. He is like my little sidekick. He & I have such a great relationship and when the twins came, I spend a lot of my time still hanging out with Hudson as he is a bit easier to relate to because he is 14 months and has a personality. So, Truman and Sawyer don’t get the same amount of individual attention that Hudson got as a newborn. Plus, hello! there are two of them so the individual attention is split even further. However, that’s not to say I don’t LOVE Truman & Sawyer. I do, tons. But as I’ve heard from other moms of a ton of kids- you love each differently. Hudson is obviously my first born and my closest relationship right NOW, but that’s not to say I won’t be closest with different kids at different times. They all bring something different to the table and the dynamic I’m sure will change as we all grow together.

LawMomma wants to know: If you had to live one day of your life over and over (like in Groundhog Day) which day would you choose and why?

Well, There are a few days. Clearly, the obvious choices are the day I met Scott, the day we got married, the day Hudson or the twins were born. But, I’ll go out on a limb and say “last Sunday.” It was good for many reasons- I slept in- but not too late. We made breakfast and ate at the table as a family. We walked to the park. I carried Hudson in the Ergo on my back & the twins were asleep in their stroller. We took pictures and had laughs. We walked home and talked about how we considered these days like a vacation. If we won the lottery we wouldn’t do anything crazy. We’d just be happy to spend everyday together as a family. It was great. We made dinner and some of of my girlfriends stopped by to visit. No one called the house or called for business. Bills weren’t being worried about. Hudson napped & went to bed on time… man it was like the perfect day!!

Andrea wanted to know: What do you love the most about blogging? The least? Can you imagine not having this blog? How do you think your life would be different?

I started my blog long before baby. I wanted to have a creative outlet for myself to write and I SUCK at diaries. So, I thought it would be fun to try out a blog. I LOVED the outlet it gave me . But now, 2 years later, I think my favorite part is all the great people I’ve met and the camaraderie felt between my closest mamas, like you Andrea! I love having friends all over the country and world for that matter that are all going through a similar part of their lives.
What I like the least is the fact that there is a certain amount of bullshit in the blogging mama world. I feel like it can be pretty high school sometimes and as much as I write my blog for me- I cannot help but sometimes worry about stats and comments. It’s lame, I know. But, unfortunately you find yourself getting caught up in it.
I couldn’t really imagine my life without my blog. It’s not because I NEED to blog, but I do really appreciate the outside contact it has given me. Being that 10 hours a day I’m home alone with (now) 3 kids, I cannot imagine not having this hobby that is just for me. My blog started as a “vanity blog” I wasn’t a mom. I was literally a spoiled housewife. When I started my blog, if I was bored- I hoped in my yellow sports car and drove to the mall to shop. Now- my blog is my outlet from the everyday monotony, since I can’t hop into any sports car and drive off anymore.

My cousin Danielle asked: What is the most important life lesson you have learned from your grandparents that you wish to pass on to your children, so they can remember them (yes, I know most of them are still living)?

I think I’ve learned many things form my grandparents. They all have taught me the value of hard work, while they have also always shown me that being passionate about something is important. From Grandpa’s love of music (I can still see him “conducting” before bed) to my Nonno’s love of hot rods. Having a passion is important. My Grandmothers have all instilled different qualities in me. My grandmothers are all amazing, strong women- beautiful both inside and out. They have collectively shown so many qualities that make a woman a good mother, grandmother, person. My Nonnie is my superstar right now because she had 6 kids! I’ve gone through 2 pregnancies and man, it’s hard work! I dunno how she did it. It’s amazing to me how strong she is in spirit. My Grandma T is just all around the sweetest person ever, I don’t know how she managed to keep such a ladylike disposition raising four boys. She’s also spunky! She’s got a boyfriend and a white leather jacket. Grandma is a HIP lady. My Grandma Sue is full of life! She is outgoing and tells it like it is. She is always surrounded by great friends and family parties at her house are just amazing.  If I could roll all three of them into one- that to me is a great mother & friend.

Metta1313 asked: So my question for you is what music are you into? Bands? Genres? I feel like you can really learn a lot about a person based upon these choices.

I listen to every single genre possible. I know that’s a lame answer- but it’s true. My absolute all-time favorites are:
Bright Eyes
The Decemberists
Jeff Buckley
Radiohead
Neil Young
Bob Dylan
The Stones
The Beatles
Counting Crows- don’t laugh
Van Morrison
Cursive -The Ugly Organ is FLAWLESS. Seriously.
Eric Clapton
The Faint
Del (or any of his million side projects)
Rza (or any of his side projects)

There are SOOOOOO many others but I seriously might be here all day trying to answer this if I think too hard.

My pal Em asked: what is your very favorite and very least favorite thing about having been with the same partner for so long? Is there one thing you two consistantly do great with? Anything you consistantly spar over?xoxo!!

My least favorite thing about having been with Scott so long is that we never got the chance to grow independently. I’d say we are pretty dependent on each other where other couples may not be. I think if you spent 24 hours with me while I was away from Scott you’d be disgusted at how much we talk on the phone. One of the main reasons I stay home is because Scott works for himself & when I had a job outside of the house, he’d stop by like 4 times a day to visit. Like both my 15 minute breaks and lunch and basically anytime he had any time between jobs. (he was much less busy then) I could tell my boss was annoyed even though they loved him & I eventually told Scott that I either had to quit my job or he’d have to stop coming by. That’s how I became a house girlfriend- and eventually a housewife. And being a housewife used to be FUN! Now, it’s like any other job but you don’t get two 15′s and an hour lunch. And I stress, when I type that out it kinda sounds crazy that he was always stopping by- but it’s not. And I guess this is my FAVORITE part as well! Because there is NO WHERE we’d rather be then with each other. I think for some people that’s weird. But, I think it’s the reason we’ve made it almost 13 years. People say teenage relationships aren’t the same. But, I feel like 14-21 was probably the most over-dramatic time of my life and if we remained best friends while so much in our lives was changing it was never gonna change. I hope that answer made even a shred of sense!

A new visitor “bust this Popsicle stand” asked: I love all the names you have chosen for your children. My question is, what other names, if any, did you consider? Also, what is the best piece of advice you were given about becoming a new mom, and who gave it to you?

For boys, we seriously considered:
Harrison
Holden
Buckley
in addition to the names we did choose:
Hudson Owen -Owen was a huge contender for his first name too.
and Truman Joseph Walker -while Joseph was chosen because it is my dad and my step-dad’s middle name, it was never a first name contender. Walker, however was. I LOVE that name, but our twins got two middle names because I am not sure we will have more kids and I wanted to make sure to use all my favorites this time around.

For girls, we seriously considered:
Imogen
Harper
Andie
Reagan
Dylan
James
Sierra
Sawyer was on both the girls & boys lists. When I found out it was twins I was determined to use Sawyer no matter what. As you can see I LOVE boys names for girls. Dylan, James & Andie were some of my absolute favorites on the list. We used Jolene as a middle name as homage to my homegirl Dolly Parton, but I have to be honest- I feel like the name is a bit trashtastic for a first name.

I invite anyone to use names on our list, but be forewarned- I’ll be using from this list if I ever get Preganese again!

As for advice on being a new mom? I don’t think anyone ever sat me down and gave me advice. When I told my dad I was gonna have twins (I was BAWLING!) He said “Well, I guess you better put on your big girl panties” I’m not even sure what the hell that means, but it’s the most memorable thing any one told me while I was cooking babies.

Little Elle asked: what is your favourite room in your house, and why? also, what qualities did you acquire by becoming a mother, that you never thought you’d acquire at all pre-mama? AND what song could you listen to on repeat?

All very good- unrelated questions! lol! You’re all over the place girl! My favorite room varies from time to time. I LOVE my bedroom. I could never leave my bedroom and be happy. My bed is comfy and the decor is really simple & calming. Plus, I can corral Hudson in here with me and he can’t get into anything. I love sitting here on my bed and blogging. (like right now!) But, decor wise, right now I’m LOVING the loft & nursery. I love all the details and I love how the house isn’t a mess anymore because all Hudson’s stuff stays up there. I love how when we go upstairs to hang out he will sit and play quietly with all his toys for hours. The nursery, where the actual cribs are- has the most calming energy EVER. When you sit in the rocking chair in the dark at night with one of the kids- It’s one of the most peaceful things I’ve ever done. Things that make a great room: A green houseplant, Rich woods, Minimalism, something containing water.

My new mama qualities I think include the ability to find the good in every one. There is no way that you can’t. I have fixed several relationships since becoming pregnant with Hudson and I understand on a deeper level my relationships and family dynamics.

Song on repeat!? OH MY GAWD! So many, mama! I can’t narrow that down. It depends on my mood. But, there is NEVER a time when I don’t want to hear “True Blue” by Bright Eyes or “Tupelo Honey” by Van Morrison or “Last Goodbye” by Jeff Buckley. OHHHHHH! and “Hurricane” by Bob Dylan. The list could go on FOREVER!

Krista asked: What’s a day in the life of you look like? Seriously, you seem like you have it SO “together” and I think I would be all over the place with a one year old and twin newborns. I want to know how you do it.

Krista: the answer is- I’M NOT SURE! This is a loose itinerary in my house:
7- Feed twins, change them and reswaddle. By this time they are already tired again.
815- Make Hudson’s morning bottle and get him from his room. We watch an episode of Yo Gabba Gabba while he drinks his bottle and Daddy gets ready for work
845-playtime. Hudson plays with toys or games with me. I deal with anything the twins need. If Hudson is particularly into a toy, I usually get 20 minutes to mess around on my laptop.
930- We have breakfast
945- playtime again! Hudson and I usually go upstairs and play. The twins will have tummy time in their gym thing while we play.They usually need a bottle around now too!
1130-lunchtime
1145-12- Naptime for Hudson
12-3- I hang out with the twins, feed them and get to spend one on one time with them since they both usually sleep during this time too. I eat my breakfast/lunch and catch up on anything I need to on the nets or on tv.
3- from the time Hudson wakes up from his nap till when Scott gets home we usually play upstairs.
4-5- whenever Scott gets home I get to take a shower and run out till about 6 to do errands like the post office, bank and the store.
6-730- usually the most hectic time of day. All babies, Hudson included are hungry and so is my husband! We usually give the babies a bath if needed and feed them. We just hang out as a family.
730- We make Hudson’s nighttime bottle (he gets two a day, still) and one of us goes upstairs with him to read to him and put him to bed.
8- I make dinner for the hubs & I. We watch TV and each care for a twin until bedtime.
10- we usually go into our room and watch TV in bed. We change and feed the twins for the last time before we put them down for the night. I get to do most of my blogging at night. I usually fall asleep around 1-2 and then have to usually wake up once more in the night for an hour to feed and change the twins. Sometimes they sleep through already!

…and repeat! Some days are hard. The worst is when they all cry at once. It’s pretty much a given at this point that one will always be crying. The only time at least one isn’t crying is during Hudson’s nap.

My HILARIOUS homegirl Suzanne asked: What was your most embarrassing mom moment?

Well, to be honest, I haven’t really had a moment where I’ve been mortified- YET. I’m dreading when it does happen. Because, I KNOW it’s coming.

Jennifer S asked: Who would you want to play you in a movie & why? & what would the theme song to your movie be?

Theme song!? Well, that’s SUPER EASY! “This is the first day of my life” by Bright Eyes. The video is below. It is such a happy song and reminds me that each and every day is a new experience.

As for who would play me in a movie about me? Shit, I dunno. I’d love to say someone really cool, like Maggie Gyllenhaal. She’s edgy and always makes such great choices in her movie rolls. I’d hope a movie about me would be a project that could attract such a hip actress. She’s also super cute, even though she looks not a bit like me- I think she’d make me look good.

Ashley asked: What were your biggest concerns for Hudson when bringing home the twins? My son is 6 months and we are starting to talk about another one but I’m afraid I’d be taking something away from Noah. How do you find balance between the twins and Hudson? (By the way half the time I’m overwhelmed with just one child so you are my new hero.)

My biggest concern was having him feel left out or unwanted. I know that in a year he won’t even remember life without his brother & sister, but it’s hard in the moment to not worry about his feelings. My one goal was that we needed to get our nursery done before the twins so Hudson, who was co-sleeping most of the time at that point, wouldn’t just get kicked out of bed one night and replaced by the twins. Luckily, we got it done a few weeks before the twins and he sleeps upstairs in his own room like a champ now. I do feel my heart break a little sometimes when Hudson comes in my room in the morning and the twins are in his spot. He doesn’t seem bothered, but just a month ago he was sleeping there. I think the only really horrible part about their age difference is because Hudson did lose his “baby” quality. He is only 14 months old but looks HUGE compared to the twins. It’s hard to still see him as a baby, even though he clearly is.