Ok, so today as I read 47million tweets and post about OMG! BLOGGGGHERRRR! (don’t worry, I’m just jealous) I got to thinking.
I am so interested in the human dynamic. In the dynamics of women. In the dynamics of blogging women. Of MOMMY BLOGGERS.
On the internet we are just a footprint of ourselves. Just as a pedophile can be a 16 year old boy looking for a 16 year old girl in a chat room. Seriously. How much do we REALLY know about our fellow bloggers?
Yeah, they seem picture perfect on the internet but what if you meet and suddenly the witty quips of the internet are stripped away. What if they look different. What if you are just well, NOT COMPATIBLE?
I mean- I know no ones looking for a date here. So, I suppose it’s different but how well can you really know someone you’ve never met?
I am so interested to see in the future (Blogher11?) how it plays out for me. I wonder if the women I have come to love on the internet will be just as easy to love in person. If our conversations will have awkward moments or if it will be like we’ve known each other forever.
Part of me is excited to see everyone’s tweets that are there in NYC sharing the excitement. To see their photos and blog posts. And mostly- to see how the dynamic of the “group” will change once people have met. Is that strange? Will certain people be closer? Will certain people who were online BFFs suddenly stopping loving each other so much?
It’s like a soap opera. And although I wish I was there living it, I am certainly content to watch it unfold from the privacy of my own home. Where I don’t have to compete for cutest business card or cutest shoes or most blog hits or you know- that kind of stuff.
Also? I want to know who gets awkwardly TOO WASTED and alienates every one. And who tries to get everyone to smoke a joint and who actually smokes. (FYI, I would.) Who is prettier in person? Who is a bitch in person? Who is most like themselves online and who is putting on a great show? Who didn’t disclose that their blog pictures are 10 years old and they are really 40 & 300+ pounds?
Blogher. It’s exciting!!
August 5th, 2010 - 10:42 PM
HA! I think about these things too much, like all the time. I wonder how many people leave BlogHer a bit disappointed with the reality of the situation. I hope the wasted person (there's always at least one!) is someone we would never expect. I am also looking forward to posts/pictures on this…
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Emmie Bee Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 10:51 PM
Allie- next year we are going RIGHT!?!
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allie Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 10:59 PM
Yeah, I'll be next years wasted one. For now though, I'm totally content drinking my wine behind the safety of a computer screen
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August 5th, 2010 - 10:46 PM
DUDE! I have been thinking about this too! Hilarious. I was like omg, now people are going to see all those wrinkles on your face that you airbrush out of your pics! lol. (just people in general)
We are only what we want people to see us as I suppose. I think some people will be really let down by others, some will connect with people more, and some will be loners the entire time, 'cause I have to say, I imagine it being REALLY BAD like high-school. (thats kinda sad though but, I think its probably a bit true).
I for sure want to know the wasted gossip too! I think if we went to blogher NO ONE would be surprised by us. I think you and I are face value bloggers. We would smoke the joint and judge the wasted Bloggers!
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Emmie Bee Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 10:51 PM
unless one of us *AHEM* was drunk and grabbing a bouncers face!
Yeah I think the only thing people would be surprised about me is that I really am as fat as I say I am. I think pictures somehow make me look skinner. No idea how that happens!!
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August 6th, 2010 - 12:10 AM
omg, I think about this ALL THE TIME. Firstly because there is one tumblr-famous blogger I got to know very well (although we never met in person, thank god) and that person turned out to be a drama-filled psycho. But mostly, I think about it because I wonder what people would think of me in real life (especially given my husband's recent declaration that I am essentially socially retarded). I mean, I try to be authentically myself on my blogs, but what if I'm kidding myself? What if I'm a huge disappointment in real life?
That is a huge reason I avoid blog meet-ups. I don't want to be a let down. Better to keep the mystery alive?
Oh…and I'd almost certainly be the one getting inappropriately drunk. And naked…
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August 6th, 2010 - 12:23 AM
I wonder even after meeting a group of my favorite people….because some of us did get closer, some people were different than I expected (in a good way and in a bad way). I think it's normal. I always find it interesting because as a sweeping generalization, most bloggers are attention whores (obviously, because we think anything we do is worth reading….lol) and so when you get a group of attention whores together it's like a silent power struggle.
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August 6th, 2010 - 2:02 AM
Next. Year. Amen.
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Emmie Bee Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 11:34 PM
Holding you to that. Even if you are breastfeeding. No excuses. Let's DO THIS!
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August 6th, 2010 - 2:48 AM
I couldn't have put it any better. And I think I'm determined to do blogher11. And methinks we would get along well.
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August 5th, 2010 - 10:49 PM
I'm told I'm a pretty fun drunk, so I think I'd do okay at one of these shin-digs, but I do worry that everyone I meet would be either a) too socially awkward to think that I'm funny, or b) so stuck in a "I'm more of a blogger than you are" mode that no real connection could be made. Because I really like the people I like, but I don't like all people.
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Emmie Bee Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 11:33 PM
yeah I feel like it may be kind of a pissing contest which is funny because the blog element isn't even a reason to go for me. I want to go just so I can meet all my internet pals at once!
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August 6th, 2010 - 1:58 AM
I am loving all of the blogher tweets now that there is some action. People are at the hotel or tweeting photos from cabs and parties. That is fun to see and live vicariously through. All of the "OMG I must buy MOAR cute shoes for BlogHer" tweets were annoying the crap out of me. I hope 2011 is somewhere fun.
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August 6th, 2010 - 10:40 AM
I absolutely LOVED this post! So true, so right! I hope you'll love me just as much in person as online haha! Although, I'm telling you now I am AWKWARD haha!
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August 9th, 2010 - 7:54 AM
This would be EXACTLY why I don't wear make-up in half the pictures I post on my blog.
So that people will say that I'm prettier in real life.
STRATEGY.
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Emmie Bee Reply:
August 9th, 2010 at 4:56 PM
That\’s hilarious!! I like your strategy & hope next year no one will be too surprised by me!
Hope you\’ll be there- because I\’m crazy & already bought my ticket!
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August 12th, 2010 - 9:32 PM
i was worried about all of that, but honestly, being in front of eachother felt completely normal (at least to me!). it was just like twitter or blogging but you could hug them! and less typing!
it was fun seeing peoples in person quirks and mannerisms. i can't wait for next year, i feel like tons more people are going to come and we are gonna have so. much. fun. i'm so glad you already bought your tickey!
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